Iowa Mother Charged With Child Abuse For Spanking Child

[conlor]

I agree with the woman on the left. Spanking is never necessary.

Parenting is a full-time job. If the child is fussy, use diversion to engage their attention in something they're interested in. If they're tired, you may have to change your plans and let them take a nap. Good parents don't hit their children.

Iowa mother charged with child abuse for spanking child

[Woodmonkey]

If it happened as stated, then I hope she sues. Some kids need a swat on their butts to settle them down and nothing else has worked.

[BrianK]

The woman demonstrated how she spanked her child. That didn't cause any futher action by the police dept.

Since child abuse is the reason for the arrest then why doesn't society go futher with with how parents are abusing children. Like overweight/obese kids. That surely is far beyond what an occasional swat on the butt will do to impact a child.

Then there is the ability to sit and play violent video games for hours. That surely has some impact on the minds of children. I could be wrong but violent video games might have the same effect at the mind altering of being kidnapped and suffering the Stockholme syndrome.

[Snowden]

Well, I must have been abusive; I spanked and swatted as I considered necessary. For one thing, raising an acquiescent girl is somewhat different from raising a rebellious one; boys are the same. Single-child parents are faced with different choices than multiple-child parents. And so on.

With my three sons, the first two were a bit more than two years apart, and
into all sorts of ideas, which they bounced off one another. It was often necessary to make them sit on chairs or to spank them. Along came a third son, seven years behind the second one. A whole different era -- he was spanked once. It was never necessary again; and about that time, the other two were getting very reasonable and responsive.

There are a few years, for instance, when a spanking is preferable to a child playing in the road when he knows that's forbidden; something like that. You sometimes need to swat a kid to get his/her attention, and it can be a life-saving gesture.

There are times when a parent simply has to have control and there is no time for explanations and reasoning with one child with others getting into things. I feel for parents who have the joy of three under four years of age, for instance -- but they do have to cope with multiple personalities and determinations. Unexpected things can happen, and at times that can present a problem that a small child won't see and respond to properly.

Each new child is an individual; we must respect that individuality, yes. But we must train the child to make him somebody who can survive and grow up and will be someone others want to know and associate with. That's a very big challenge.

Parents have to cope. Beating and spanking are two different things. The one is not allowable; the other is necessary with some kids.

[BrianK]

Originally Posted by Snowden

Well, I must have been abusive; I spanked and swatted as I considered necessary. For one thing, raising an acquiescent girl is somewhat different from raising a rebellious one; boys are the same. Single-child parents are faced with different choices than multiple-child parents. And so on.

With my three sons, the first two were a bit more than two years apart, and
into all sorts of ideas, which they bounced off one another. It was often necessary to make them sit on chairs or to spank them. Along came a third son, seven years behind the second one. A whole different era -- he was spanked once. It was never necessary again; and about that time, the other two were getting very reasonable and responsive.

There are a few years, for instance, when a spanking is preferable to a child playing in the road when he knows that's forbidden; something like that. You sometimes need to swat a kid to get his/her attention, and it can be a life-saving gesture.

There are times when a parent simply has to have control and there is no time for explanations and reasoning with one child with others getting into things. I feel for parents who have the joy of three under four years of age, for instance -- but they do have to cope with multiple personalities and determinations. Unexpected things can happen, and at times that can present a problem that a small child won't see and respond to properly.

Each new child is an individual; we must respect that individuality, yes. But we must train the child to make him somebody who can survive and grow up and will be someone others want to know and associate with. That's a very big challenge.

Parents have to cope. Beating and spanking are two different things. The one is not allowable; the other is necessary with some kids.

I think the people that can't distinguish between spanking and beating are causing far more problems in our society.

If time outs were working and supposedly teaching non violence then how is the increased violence in our society explained?

[Woodmonkey]

Originally Posted by Snowden

Beating and spanking are two different things. The one is not allowable; the other is necessary with some kids.

Very well said!

Originally Posted by BrianK

I think the people that can't distinguish between spanking and beating are causing far more problems in our society.

If time outs were working and supposedly teaching non violence then how is the increased violence in our society explained?

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Just look around to see what permissiveness has brought us. A well timed swat earlier in life would have spared all of us.

[Scrappy]

I must say this, I AM IMMENSELY GRATEFUL THAT MY PARENTS WHIPPED MY A$$. Without going into details, it was a teaching worth having. I'm glad some parents have managed to raise children without spanking, but children are children, they cannot reason like adults. I know adults who still can't reason maturely, that I wish their parents had taught them better, but they are now adults and responsible for themselves. We have a law like this junk down here in FL, telling people how to raise their yung'uns, I have designated these laws, "Bull**** Mommy Laws" Make sure you use that terminology when the kid breaks the law, you can blame it on the state. If they want to raise your kid, then the onus is on them (but we know they won't take responsiblitity :grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr).